No pictures of my friends because I have too many that won't fit in this post so enjoy the meme:)
Hello everyone and welcome back to my blog. Thank you for subscribing if you have and for those that aren’t thank you for taking the time to read this. Today I am going to be writing about something very important in my life: My friends. This post has been long overdue so I’ll just go straight to it.
I believe that the value of friendship is a very important aspect of life. Growing up I’ve always had a very consistent friend group or I’ve always been in friend groups. When I was in kindergarten, it had been a full year since I had just moved to America and during that time I didn’t have any friends in school. I would talk to kids in class and do activities with them but at the end of the day I never really had a true friend.
Until one day my kindergarten class decided to go to the Museum for a field trip and while I was on the bus a girl had approached me and asked if I wanted to hang out with her and her friends that day. That day had changed my life because for once I finally made a friend. As of today the girl that came up to me no longer goes to my school and we had stopped being friends after first grade but I’ll never forget the impact that she had made on my life that day.
I remembered having the best time of my life and her mom had chaperoned for our trip and to be honest, I’ll never know if her mom was the one who asked her to reach out to me that day, or maybe she did it on her own but regardless it made my day so much that I still think about it. It’s always the little things in life that get you going and this was one of those things for me.
Since then I had told myself I wanted to be her, the girl who had all these friends, the person who would let others join in when they didn’t have anyone else.
This lead to this point in my life and if I’m being honest, a lot has changed since then, and making friends is a lot harder than I had expected and I still have trouble letting people in but let’s just say I’m still a pretty lucky person.
I have so many friends now, all of which balance me out as a person. For the times I couldn’t invite those sitting alone, all my friends did, for the moments where I wanted to go home but stayed for my friends and so much more. My friends are truly some of the greatest people ever and the best part? There are so many of them.
After my kindergarten year, I had started making more friends, and soon after I met three girls all in different years but to this day we are all best friends and I could never imagine a life without them. Soon after that I got into middle school and I met more people, then once high school came that was when my life had skyrocketed during two different times: End of freshman year, and the end of senior year.
It’s funny because back then on those cringey Instagram posts that you would see about how you will never have the same friends in middle school and high school and while that’s the case for many people, it wasn’t like that for me. If anything I think that my bond with all of those friends has grown a lot stronger and we’ve expanded a lot since then.
My friends are some of the most important people in my life and I will continue saying that forever because the bonds and memories you have with them will always shape your life. Growing up I always thought that I could never make friends on my own since I was always in a group but that changed a lot once I got into college because I was forced to be in a dorm that was so far away from everyone else and I had to accept the fact that I can’t just be friends my high school friends and that’s perfectly fine.
By giving yourself this distance is not a bad thing, but rather a thing that you need to grow as a person. This past summer I become friends with a lot of new people and while I wouldn’t consider myself close with every single person that I’ve met this summer, it was really refreshing to meet different people and expand.
The moment I met all these new friends I remember thinking to myself along with a few others why did it take so long for me to cross paths with these people because I’ve gone to school with them my whole life and we never talked up until this point. It’s so funny how life plays things out for you because you never truly know what’s gonna happen.
A lot of people have a lot of opinions on having a big friend group and it can be very hard to manage because there are so many people and there’s always bound to be some sort of drama because there are so many others, but for me, I think it’s nice to have a big friend group because not every single person has the same interests as each other and that’s what makes everyone unique because you can do certain things with certain friends that maybe your other friends wouldn’t want to do.
My friends and I laugh, cry, and we bully our other friends together. At this point, we’re all family. Besides, I had a really big family growing up so my life was always pretty chaotic and this doesn’t feel any different.
But If you would’ve told me a few years ago that my life would be like this, I wouldn’t have believed you. It’s insane how short you can know a person and they could still end up being one of your best friends. One example is my roommate who I literally love with my life. Imagine not liking your roommate because I can’t, and all those that I’ve met so far this year during my time in school.
Now you’re reading this and wondering what is she trying to get at here? And to be honest I had plans of writing this back in August because that was the time that my friends and I were parting for school but at the time it didn’t feel right to put all of this down because I had a feeling that things were going to change once I got into college. What did change was that I have 10 times more friends than I’ve ever had in my life, but what didn’t change was the bond that I had with all of my true friends back at home. We all might not go to the same school and we might not always have the same interests but at the end of the day my bond with them is so strong that no matter where we are how long we’re apart, we’ll always be friends.
This is one aspect of my life that I consider to be very lucky because there are so many people who grow up having friends and they eventually part or they stop being friends but I don’t think it’ll ever really be like that with me and my friends. I think the biggest part of it was because we had grown up and experienced so much together that at this point if we haven’t left each other then we won’t ever. I like to consider myself the middle person where I'm the one that many people can come to or talk to and be pretty close with and I think for the most part I’ve been pretty good with it.
There’s been a few situations where I might’ve drifted off with a few people but then the moment we reconnect again it feels like we never left and that to me shows how strong a bond really is. During the summer my friends used to ask me if I would still be friends with everybody because we were parting for college. Many people were very skeptical about it, But I was very confident in the fact that I will probably always stay friends with my true friends and the reason why I say that is because I believe that friendships are formed on bonds, and bonds are not easily broken because if they are then maybe it wasn’t as genuine as you thought. Many people can probably argue with me on this but in my experience, I think I’ve had a pretty good success rate with all of it.
I do also believe that a friendship will prosper with some distance. Going to college is a tough situation to think about when it comes to parting away from your friends but it’s what tests your friendship to begin with, remember if it’s meant to be they will always come back In the future even if it seems unlikely at the moment.
I think what also creates a really strong relationship with anything in life is communication. What makes my friends and I special is that with almost everyone, I’ve had a very deep conversation with. Throwback to the days where we would just sit in my car and talk about life but since I’m at college I don’t have my car anymore (Don’t let this stop us, we can always talk if anyone needs it) but you could learn so much from a person by talking to them and I’m so glad to have been able to build a bond with so many people just by conversation.
Some people don’t really have conversations like that with their friends and I think it’s so weird just because if you don’t have these deep or controversial conversations with your friends then how can you just be friends by hanging out? And I know not everyone has to talk about their feelings like that’s not what I’m getting at right now with this but to me, it’s always felt weird not to communicate with someone in that way.
But while I think there’s more to friendship than what I’m putting out right now, friendship to me might mean a lot different than for many other people. Since I’m growing up I believe that if I want to make friends, I will only be friends with people that I truly believe will stay my friends forever.
And to those who I may have lost throughout the years, or those that I might end up losing in the future I truly won’t know but thank you for being such a big part of my life because no matter where you are or whatever happens, I'll be forever gracious for the memories I’ve created with everyone.
Sorry for another messy blog post that isn’t really in order, my brain is literally fried from math class but I wanted to get this out tonight so enjoy.
But lastly, to my best friends, I love you guys. (HMU to get food, I’m bored)
- Sincerely, TT
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